Transform Life Style Second marriage - Consultation A new proven approach to developing long lasting married life this time which can help you grow. Personal private session depending on the need of the individual. For females only female counselor (NLP certified) is provided in session. Each session is confidential, diverse, unique, totally tailored work for each individual clients life history. :: In second marriage what are you looking for and reasons  :: Financial security. Father / Mother for children's. To prove parents/ family that this time I am going to make it. A partner who is more understanding and gives you time to listen. A partner who is honest in relationship with you. Soul mate who can be a part in your daily life to enjoy happiness with you. Pressure from family / parents / society to get married again. Most of the time people only have one of the reasons above in their mind when they are planning their second marriage. But marriage provides all of the above and much much more. Do you have the paper with the questions where you might have written down why are you going to marry second time and what do you expect in this marriage ? Please bring that paper now , and discuss. Marriage is fruit which is sweet, but are you sure you don't have diabetes, if your mind is not clear and you are not mentally ready then you need to focus first on your mind so you can enjoy marriage this time. What needs to be done to clear your mind so you can start fresh and enjoy more because you really want to make it this time. One would think that an individual who has gone through a divorce would have "learned his lesson" and will, therefore, not repeat the mistakes of the past. OHO, this is often not the case. Those who marry to fulfill certain needs but are not prepared to give in return usually marry with the same intent the next time around. The second marriage becomes nothing more than a walk down a precipice, a courtship leading to fresh disaster (fresh only because it involves a new partner).  Any parent would like his / her child to be happy forever their life, and this all they are looking for in the soul mate for their child, but child has different philosophy or mind set and sometimes it creates conflict among themselves. You need to clear the smoke first, and then go with open mind to look for soul-mate. Remember you have the potential , desire, capabilities and you deserve to live happy married life. Yes, it's possible in marriage to live happy and enjoy life which you might have missed last time. The only thing you need to do is to wake up the right number in your mind, as if you dial one starting number wrong your call will be connected to Bombay instead of Delhi, even though all rest numbers are same just by replacing 1 instead of 2 will take you somewhere else. You need to find where you lacking and what you need. Our Marriage counseling session will help you realize what you need to do in your life to make your marriage work, and enjoy life with your partner. Mostly second marriage is under pressure to prove others that this time I did it right. You will spend so much time in showing off to display people that see how happy I am this time. I am a good person and this time I am made it because I found a good soul mate, because last time my partner was not helping me to make marriage work.  Parents are pressuring you to get married , and this time they don't trust you that you may be able to find the right person as it was your mistake last time ? In Satyug, all men and women would marry, live long and happy lives together and leave this world at about the same time, or we might do some puja to remove those obstacles. Does it really works like this ? There would be no need for second marriages. But we live in 20th centaury that is far from perfect. People sometimes die young,  or  too many marriages simply do not last and collapse into divorce leaving behind grieving spouses with potentially long lives ahead of them. Second marriages sometimes thrive or sometimes even second marriages that are doomed from the start. Interestingly, the divorce rate among second marriages is higher than that among first marriages marriages wrecked by children. Interestingly, the divorce rate among second marriages is higher than that among first marriages second marriages in which the children from both sides fuse together into a happy and cooperative unit; second marriages that collapse under financial strain and second marriages that endure, but unhappily. The beauty is it is possible for you to make your first or second marriage to make it work. How do you make it work if other person is not listening or giving you time and taking care of your emotional needs. Marriage is suppose to bring happiness in your life, happiness increases 9 years in your life as per BBC survey. Good marriage can bring happiness in life. One who leaves a marriage because of financial instability, may, for example, try to find a new partner who offers the promise of financial security. The same is true of the other significant marital issues--sexual fulfillment, lack of emotional connectedness (communication), problems with in-laws, etc. Since the spouse left the marriage because of a particular problem, he/she understandably wants to ensure that he/she will not have to contend with the same problem all over again. But life often plays funny tricks on people. The second-time newlywed finds out, often after it is too late, that the new spouse is indeed different from the first. And while the new spouse may have what the first spouse lacked, he may also lack what the first spouse had. In many cases first marriages end due to one partner being controlling, abusive either emotional or physically , having some sort of personality disorder which makes living or dealing with that person very difficult. Many second marriages are stressed when dealing with the ex-partner who has these issues and who continues or tries to control and manipulate the other spouse via children. Its never ending when children are involved. Many divorced people in this predicament will state 'when will my divorce be final'. It is often difficult to 'blend' the second marriages with all of the new members and often most of the expectations of everyone involved are rarely met because they are unrealistic to begin with. This in itself causes much discord and family therapy is often needed in order to make the marriage work. Second marriages are rarely easy due to this issues as well as others, but if can handle your & new spouse needs and willing to go an extra mile then second marriage can bring happiness as you know you have lot on stake. Female partner in second marriage who became step mom will think I have no idea how hard it would be to be a step mom. I love kids, but we have way too many negatives in our relationship. Partly because of "the bond" he has with his Dad. I feel I chose for the wrong reasons, especially where my life is leading me now, and we are only growing farther apart in values. I should have learned my lesson. No this should not be the case, rather your new kids should adore you and be a support to you because you gave them love which they were deprived of. Some of the opening lines we heard from our clients are :::  My first divorce was a lot harder than my second.  Life has just started for me. Is there a happily ever after ?   Children are a potential block to remarriage, but they need not be. It helps if the children realize that it is important for the parent to be content. Parenting always works better in contentedness than in melancholy. Children will be the prime beneficiaries of parental happiness. When A newcomer must never come into a family with the attitude that he will replace a parent parents are happy, children can prosper.  Younger children are less likely to be able to appreciate this; unfortunately, even older children and adults do not automatically embrace this perspective.  On the other hand, the remarrying spouse must recognize that his primary responsibility is now to the new marital partner. No one wants to be in "second place." The remarrying partner needs to be sensitive to this. Happy married life can add 9 more years to your age. Counseling session may boost your confidence about yourself and open new doors of mind to invite soul mate. Put all of your thoughts and questions on paper and discuss all of your questions in session.